Abdullah Al-Haqim 
Often we realize that we are in an emotional, stressful relationship, however we adhere to it, in the hope of changing what or believes that love is enough to reform matters, or perhaps we are simply afraid to end the relationship and move towards the unknown.
Although these justifications may be sufficient to continue for many, they are nevertheless not a logical option that you can rely on to build your future with your partner.
If you do not feel happy, or if you are in a relationship that emotionally drains you, perhaps it is time to put feelings and fears aside and reassess the relationship to determine your next steps.
When do you have to end a relationship?
According to a study published in the Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, researchers found that husbands often tend to continue an unhealthy relationship due to the main fear of unity with the belief that it is impossible to find a better person after separation. A person’s emotional attachment to someone is also one of the most common causes that lead us to continue with a miserable relationship.
According to the marital relations consultant, John Dabbash, you will know that you are afraid of the unit in an exaggerated manner, when you have certain expectations and specifications in your partner, whether about his beliefs, educational level, material situation, or external shape, but your partner does not meet any of them, however you are determined to stick to it. Or when you do not feel any familiarity or emotion towards your partner and at the same time you are afraid to abandon it.
Withdrawal from a relationship is not a thing, and it may be painful often, but at the same time continuing an unhealthy relationship may deprive you of the opportunity to find the appropriate person for you, as it causes your constant feeling of misery and remorse, which may lead you to depression, anxiety and loss of feeling of identity, especially if you make a lot of concessions in order to continue in the relationship.
Here are some important indicators, if you are experiencing one or more of them, this means that you have to rethink your future with your partner, and evaluate your relationship objectively before you make a decision to continue or withdraw.
1- Your intuition tells you the importance of withdrawal
Often your intuition is the first warning signal that tells you that there is a defect in the relationship, even before problems float on the surface. But why should you trust your intuition? Simply because your intuition is based on your unconscious experiences. Sometimes your conscious mind may refuse to explain events in a logical way, especially if you are mired in love, while your subconscious picks all the signs and behaviors that your partner shows that may indicate a defect.
However, to withdraw from a relationship that you should not depend on intuition alone, unless it is associated with other factors that prove that your intuition is correct, at the same time, do not neglect your intuition and reduce your inner thoughts. In the end, it is said that the intuition of a woman does not make mistakes.
2- You have to waive your fundamental values
Often, relations do not succeed with great differences in the fundamental values between the two parties, including ideas, beliefs, lifestyle and view of marriage or children.
The situation gets worse when you find yourself constantly obliged to waive your principles that you previously believed are not negotiable, and in return there is no desire from the other party to find a median solution that brings out the views between you.
Your essential values determine your identity, so when you find yourself, you have to give it up with time, you will lose your feelings, and you will lose your self -confidence during your attempts to please the other side.
It is necessary that sacrifices, concessions and settlements are normal for the continuation of any relationship, but only on the condition that they are not only one side, and this continuity is largely related to the ability of the two parties to respect the difference between them, especially when it comes to fundamental principles and fixed beliefs, otherwise the time has come to reassess this relationship.
3- You receive permanent warnings from family and friends
Do your friends and family members think that you are moving your time with the inappropriate person? If such comments constantly receive you from many people who love you and take care of you, this means that you should stop a little to reconsider the relationship. Simply because these people are able to see your relationship from a neutral external perspective and in a more objective way related to emotions.
Moreover, they know you well and can notice whether this relationship affects you negatively or positively. And most importantly, they must want the best for you.
If those around you agree that you are with the wrong partner, you may need to rethink the relationship, however you must make sure that their rulings are based on objective facts and observations and not just personal impressions.
4- Loss of respect
In romantic novels it is said that love is the most important element in any relationship. But in real life, and despite the importance of love, respect comes first, without it it is impossible for the relationship to continue in a healthy and fruitful way. There are many signs that indicate the loss of respect between the two parties, such as your partner constantly reducing your business through constant criticism, ridicule and prey comments, or to show control actions and seek to control you, whether through direct intervention by your decisions and imposing his desires on you or through emotional manipulation or by emotionally or physically.
All of these factors transform the relationship from a source of comfort and stability to a source of tension and misery, and its presence undoubtedly indicates the importance of withdrawing from this relationship before it deeply affects your psychological and physical health.
5- You make excuses for your partner constantly
You can not notice – or do not want to note – the negatives of your partner or unacceptable actions, but if you find yourself making constantly excuses for these actions, know that there is a real problem in your relationship. The presentation of repeated excuses may seem a kind of tolerance caused by love, however it may also reflect your ignorance of problems that need to be solved before they get worse.
Constant overlooking errors also indicates fear of confrontation, or from reaching unsatisfactory results, another problem indicating the importance of reassessing the relationship. This overcoming may cause psychological harm and causes you an emotional depletion that you will not be able to endure for long periods, as it leads to the accumulation of problems and congestion, and necessarily means that you prefer to stay in an unhealthy and unhealthy relationship, for fear of losing the partner.
If you suffer from this problem, it is better to re -evaluate your partner’s behavior objectively without any delusional justifications, and think seriously if you have to withdraw from this relationship based on these assessments.
6- The absence of emotional communication
When you feel a permanent emotional emptiness despite the presence of a partner in your life, this is an indication that there is no harmony between you. You may tolerate the lack of harmony for a period of time, but later it will be an emotional burden on you, you may not be able to tolerate it later. Nevertheless, you should not lose sight of the presence of different forms of emotional communication that does not necessarily mean communicating feelings with words, but also includes expressing feelings in other ways represented by attention or understanding and respect, and therefore you must discover and respect the way your partner expresses his love.
But if the lack of emotional communication between you is so serious that you feel like you are strangers to each other, here you have to go into a serious conversation to find out the reasons for this apathy.
The emotional void between the two partners is manifested in several ways, including the absence of a deep dialogue between the two parties, and the limitation of the talk between you on the surface things only. It is also manifested by the inability to express feelings, which creates an emotional barrier between you, or a constant feeling of loneliness and isolation, or even negative and hostile communication in most cases.
In such cases, you need to reassess your relationship with your partner, and withdraw from it if you cannot find ways to erase this emotional void between you.
7- There is no effort to reform your relationship
If you are constantly arguing and noticed that your partner does not make any effort to change or reach compromise to fix the relationship and ensure its continuation, this may be an indication that your relationship will not last long as your problems continue to accumulate until it becomes impossible to solve. Of course, this applies to you as well, as you do not make any effort to fix your problems will lead to the same result, but if you are the two, do not do any effort, then this means that you have to end this relationship.
The unwillingness to make any effort is to ignore or indifferent, in procrastination and postpone the important talks constantly, and the presence of unequal expectations, as your partner considers that you should meet all his needs while he does not make any effort in return.
Refraining from exerting the effort may sometimes be caused by the accumulation of problems and the inability to understand with the other, in addition to the successive disappointments that make you not expect your partner anything. This extinguishing and surrender in the relationship also means that it will not fruit in the long run. The health relationship requires continuous attention and effort made by both parties.
